Being Bull-Headed?

Disagreements can arise in any relationship. We all have an opinion. We all want to be heard. Unfortunately, there are times when opinions clash and friends or loved ones become foe. Things can go from bad to worse when one or both parties believe that their actions are 100 percent justified and, in turn, take an unyielding hard-line stance that feels like a punishment.

The warring parties withdraw their support. They give each other the cold shoulder. They refuse to discuss the matter or apologize because, in their minds, they both believe they are right and the other wrong. Like the Minotaur messenger, they choose to be bull-headed.

However, there are times when we need to ask ourselves whether the end of a relationship is worth the price of being right. What do we truly stand to lose by being stubborn if we choose to insist that we are right for all the wrong reasons?

Sometimes, unless an argument reveals an absence of respect or that core values are not shared, we need to yield and be open to compromise. We need to be mindful that sometimes both sides of an argument or dispute can have a foundation of truth and integrity. Contradictory points of view can both be valid. Sometimes a concession needs to be made so peace and harmony can be maintained or restored.

If love is more important than being right, you need to make a choice to dull those horns and meet somewhere in the middle. Don’t let a wounded ego, pride, or stubbornness be the driving force behind your actions.